Monday, February 4, 2013

What I Wore Sunday ~ Gettin' Snazzy for Jesus

One of my favorite things to do when we go to Holy Mass during any of our family travels is to learn a little bit about the history of the church we are visiting. There's something so rich and interesting about the roots of a community of people who come together to praise, pray and to worship the Lord.  I'm often intrigued by the old black and white photos that line walls of the parish halls or church basements. The snapshots capture the essence of a people who valued their Faith as an integral part of daily living. The worship and honor of the Lord was not just something that they "had" to make time for on Sundays, but something that was embodied in everyday life in the culture of the home.  What strikes me most, is that the most beautiful churches across the country were built by the poorest, simplest, busiest, hardest working people. You would never know by looking at those pictures from decades ago that most of those folks struggled in earnest to make ends meet, as every single person smiled cheerfully, sporting their finest attire.  The men wore suits and the women dresses to church, and the children dressed up too, year round, scorching heat or freezing cold. They didn't just dress up for the parish picture, they were simply wearing their normal Sunday attire.

Our family has always dressed up for church, a value and tradition that both Steve's parents and my parents instilled in us at an early age.  When I say dressed up, I mean no jeans, na-na-na-nooooo shorts, no sweats, no jammies, no swimwear (I'm not joking, some of the things people wear to church literally resemble swimwear and pajamas).  Now, I'm not saying that we're better than everyone one else, I'm just saying that our dress code matches our priority code, and that is this: of all of the work and activities that we attend to during the week, above all in matters of importance is the one hour that we give to our Lord on Sundays.

Go ahead, roll out the excuses reasons for not dressing up......I've heard them all, honestly, and very few of them bear little if any merit in my book.  Here are just a few of my favorites:


1.  God loves me just the way I am, so I don't need to dress up.
Yes, God does love you, honey, He loves all of us just the way we are, but this isn't really about God's love for you and me, it's about our love for God.  The time and effort it takes to dress up is an expression of love for Him. I'm always amazed at how girls will spend weeks searching for the perfect prom dress to wear for some dude who could really care less, but then they take so little time to prepare themselves for church.  This concept is even worse for boys. It's rare to see any of them dressed up, ever, for anything.  Even parents dress well for work or an evening out, but see no reason to include days of worship in that same standard of dress.  As parents we lead by example, and the way we dress to meet the King says a lot about how important that meeting is to us.

2.  I can't afford to dress up.
People, please.  If we can afford Starbucks and i-phones, we can afford a shirt and tie.  All of those snazzy folks in the church pictures from "the good ol' days" barely had a pot to pee in, but they always came to church well-dressed and dignified.  It's not impossible for the rest of us to find a way to make it happen.  Where there's a will, there's a thrift shop, I mean a way, right?? (Raise your hand if you luv a good thrift shop!)


3.  My kids just WON'T wear what I ask them to.
Really? The truth is, your kids just won't wear what you expect  them too. As long as they live under your roof, you do have the right to have expectations of your children, and you also have the authority to see those expectations through. If you provide any of the following things for your kids - a cell phone, car, clothing, allowance, food, bed, hot shower, etc, etc. - any one (or more) of those things can easily be taken away until the child chooses to acquiesce to such a simple request. You might begin by taking a little bit of time to talk to them about their own personal worth and dignity.  Each of us is made in the image and likeness of Christ, and it is proper to our dignity as humans to exude that image to others, particularly at church.  It is not proper to our dignity to show up to mass in cut off shorts, tank tops or something so flimsy it wouldn't pass for a beach cover-up.  That's just one of the reasons why our family has to sit in the front row in during the summer months, so that my sons don't have to be assaulted by the disproportionate ratio of skin to clothing.  But, anyway, lead by example, and lead with love.  No follow, no talkie/textie on the phonie.

And, my favorite parental line of crap: 
4.  "Oh, I'm just so happy that my child goes to church, I really don't care what he/she wears." 
Well, make the rest of us happy, too, by acting like a parent and seeing to it that your kid is at least fully clothed.  The reality is, if you don't care about what your kids wear, you probably don't care about what you wear either. This state of mind often spills over into an entire family attitude toward dressing for church.  Mothers and fathers stagger in on Sundays exasperated, dragging their kids behind them, then plunk down in the pew, staring at the cross in exhaustion with a look that says, "I hope you're happy, Lord, it's nothing short of a miracle that we are even here (in our jeans and sweats)." I know how agonizing Sunday mornings can be  - the endless search for mates to shoes, trying to put on mascara while your toddler is wrapping himself up in your skirt, taming rooster tails and re-buttoning buttons so that they line up right, yelling at the apathetic ones to please get dressed for the thousandth time.  Of course it's hard, but hard  isn't an excuse.  Everything in life is hard, but most of us don't quit our jobs, or tell our kids they can quit studying or playing sports because it's just too darn hard. All the more love we offer in the struggle - it's called sarifice!

If you're still here with me, you'll be happy to know that I've come down off of my soapbox, and you'll also be happy to know that that was the short version of my book of feelings on this topic. Moving on! 

The lovely ladies over at Fine Linen and Purple have a wonderful little link up called What I wore Sunday where bloggers can share their Sunday style.  This week, I thought that linking up would be fun and also a great way to give some visual truth to my preachin.'  Here's what I wore yesterday:
Sweater: Frankie & Jules (a fun Kansas City boutique)
Belt:  Frankie & Jules
Blouse: Banana Republic, clearance baby!
Skirt: Garnet Hill 
Tights: Marshalls
Boots: 6th Street Fashions

The boys knew that something was up when I asked them to snap a picture of me, because they know that I'm extremely camera shy.  They decided that they wanted in on the action, so of course I had to honor their rare but valiant willingness to have their picture taken while donning dress clothes.  So, they posed.  Once.  Then, they ran off to resume being rowdy and gross.  This is what I got:
Chaps Shirts: Kohls (Black Friday sales = cheap!)
Dress Pants: Target and Wal-Mart
Belts: Target and Wal-Mart
Shoes: Payless
Expressions: Genetic Gifts

20 comments:

  1. I adore the outfit. I'd like to plant my soap box right next to yours, but you do the talking. You are much better at it.

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    1. Oh, I don't know about that! You can write with some serious wit and sass! :)

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  2. Wow - I agree! No one dresses up for ANYTHING anymore, and I think it shows such a lack of respect, self-respect mostly!

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    1. I agree with you - there needs to be a revival in our hearts and in our homes when it comes to respecting others and respecting ourselves.

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  3. ALSO can I just say, dressing up does not mean letting your little girls dress like they are going to a night club. Ever. Please leave the tube tops and spaghetti straps in winter in the dress up box.

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  4. SING it sister. Loved your soapbox and your pictures. You have such a sweet family.

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  5. I agree with the "excuses" people use. My family dresses up for Mass, even my 15 year old who attends Lifeteen Mass, with even the adults wearing jeans and/or shorts. She does not. I dress up as well. I must say though that at 57, I can no longer wear cute shoes comfortably and help out after Mass with Afterlife. I think I end up looking "dumpy" and "frumpy" if I wear a longer skirt and top. Or I dress better (I look good in dressier dresses) and am very uncomfortable, especially at Afterlife washing dishes and being with the teens. I'd love some "older" women doing the linkup so I could get some ideas for comfort without "frump".

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    1. Maybe my mother--in-law could help out with this one. She dresses beautifully for church each week, and has serious problems with her feet, so she has to dress comfortably. I will see if she would consider joining me for the link up!

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    2. That would be wonderful!

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  6. Great post... and you look absolutely darling. :) I completely agree and we are definitely a dress up family on the Lord's Day. The kids are not contrary at all because they get it. It does make a huge difference that we are homeschooling because they don't feel any pressure to dress like bums (or worse). For big feast days, we really pull out the fancy and that is so much fun! In general we are a very casual family because it costs a lot of money to keep us all in perfect duds. I think that only enhances the Sunday experience though. It says: THIS is a special day, like no other. :)

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    1. Absolutely!! We go from farm/work attire during the week to snazzy on Sundays - thats just practical living at it's best. I'm so thankful that my husband supports REALLY dressing up for holidays and special feasts. The boys really feel special when they get to wear sport coats and ties -they even ask for it! :)

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  7. Super cute outfit!! And the picture of the boys is adorable!! We are the same way about dressing up for mass. We get a little lax when it comes to going to mass on vacations, but my oldest will refuse to wear jeans to mass! I think he gets the point.

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  8. OH!!! Thank you for this. It's just one hour of dress-up for our Father who gave so much more for us. Paleeeeze! If you are "picking your battles" pick this one, ok?

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  9. Your guys are ADORABLE! Oh my goodness!!! When I was younger I always told my husband (who was then my boyfriend!) that I wanted five boys! Wouldn't you know...now I have four girls! haha (and a single solitary boy...for now!)
    Anyway, I love your outfit too and I agree with your soapbox. Thanks for a great post. Your blog is lovely.

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  10. Who is cuter--you or the boys!! You all look great, and with good reason. Thanks for sharing :)

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  11. I've been wanting someone to post on this for weeks, and I just couldn't get up the nerve to go there. Thanks for putting it so perfectly. Oh, and the boys look so handsome, and you look lovely!

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  12. Love that skirt!! You look super!

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  13. I have that same skirt and it never occurred to me to wear it with a belt, but I love that look! Thanks for sharing!

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