Monday, May 12, 2014

Avoiding the Epidural?? 3 Effective Methods to Help You Reach Your Natural Birth Goals {MMM Vol. 7}

Welcome to a new edition of Motivate Me Monday! At week 36, I can hardly believe how quickly this pregnancy has flown by! After chatting briefly about my labor and delivery goals with my OBGYN last week, I felt inspired to write today's MMM post.
Listening to other women share their birth stories has always been such a highlight for me.  The entire process of bringing new life into the world is wonderful and should never be diminished to something simple or ordinary, because it truly is extraordinary, every single time!

I am blessed to have shared five of my own birth stories with friends and family, and now that we are anticipating the arrival of #6, I can't help but wonder how this little one's story will be written. 

When I was pregnant with our first son, I discovered Dr. Sears' books on pregnancy, and birth. Next to my bible, they soon became the the most precious resources ever to sit on our bookshelves. I scoured every single page of details, highlighting and taking notes on anything and everything that I thought would ensure sound preparation for the labor and delivery - a process I was sure would go according to plan!! HA!!

With bags perfectly packed, and birth plan in hand, I was going to deliver this baby a la natural. Well, 19 hours into a grueling labor, clutching my husband's shirt in the death grip of desperation, I begged him to find the man with the cocktail of comfort.  All those carefully written plans had swiftly flown south. All I could think about was getting an epidural. Needless to say, my pain relief request, filled with compelling wails and grunts, was a tad late.   Seven pitifully long hours later, our son Benedict was born.

Whether you arrive at the hospital with a birth plan in hand that simply says EPIDURAL! or one that has been thoughtfully composed with every detail that you hope will make an au natural experience possible, the choice is entirely yours.  Maybe you've never labored without drugs and want to give it a try, or perhaps you've had a negative experience with natural birth and can't imagine doing it all over again.  If either one is the case, I hope that this post is helpful to you in some way!

Without going into too many details, I'll tell you why I've chosen the natural route with each of my own births.  My main motivation for laboring without an epidural during my first labor experience was pure curiosity. I truly wanted to know what labor was like for my mom, my grandma and all of the moms of past generations who had ever brought new life into the world without the option of pain relief. I know, it sounds pretty idealistic, doesn't it (or crazy, or both!)? Always intrigued by the capabilities of the human body, I couldn't help but desire to experience the birth process from start to finish without any interventions.  As you know, from the story above, intrigue was not enough to sustain a 26 hour labor!

Even so, after all that pain, just 6 months later, we realized we were expecting #2! While laboring with our second son, my doctor informed me that, because I was not progressing and the baby was stressed, if I didn't try an epidural hoping it would help me to relax and dilate, a c-section might be necessary.

In came the drug team. And, oh baby, did it work! In just five minutes, I went from a 5 to pushing.  Talk about a wonder drug!  Unfortunately, I paid a big price for those 5 minutes of complete relaxation and the avoided c-section.  Six months of spinal sensitivity and migraine headaches had me re-thinking the epidural.
Since I decided to leap back to the natural side of labor and delivery for any future births, I needed to find ways to ease the pain of labor.  Thanks to the advice of a wonderful doula and two trusted mid-wives, I found a combination of tried and true methods that have helped make my 3rd, 4th and 5th birth experiences truly positive ones!

1.  Red Raspberry Leaf Tea
RRLT is an absolute must have for me, and for many women, during the last 2-3 weeks of my pregnancy.  This stuff is truly magical!  Used for centuries to help prepare a woman's uterus for labor, it is widely known for making contractions not only less painful, but more efficient, resulting in shortened labor time.  I can attest to this! My last two births have both been three hours or less, and much less painful than the previous ones! Just a few of the other benefits include:

- Minimizes the risk of postpartum hemorrhaging
- Eases postpartum discomforts
- Increases breast milk supply

The important thing to remember about drinking the tea in preparation for birth is that it is most beneficial when consumed in quantities of 4-5 cups per day leading up to the birth, and in concentrated quantity once contractions begin.  You can store it in the fridge and drink it iced for convenience. If you are scheduled to be induced, prep some of the tea ahead of time, refrigerate it, then take it with you to the hospital and sip on it before advanced labor begins!

If you can find a brand that is formulated with Rose Hips and Nettle, the benefits of the tea only increase.  I am using this brand from Vita Cost.

You can read more about the history and benefits of RRLT here, here and here.

2. Chiropractic Care & Stretching
Most of us would agree that chiropractic care is a controversial topic.  In general, it seems that people either love it or hate it, believe in it strongly or doubt sincerely any benefits it might bring to their lives.  When it comes to pregnancy, labor and delivery, I'm a believer!

Proper spine, hip and pelvic alignment are undeniably important for a mama's comfort during pregnancy, labor and delivery, and also assist in the proper positioning of the baby for birth.  My personal experience with chiropractic care throughout pregnancy has been so positive, I cannot do without it! I sleep better, find relief for low back/sacrum pain, and feel energized after every visit.

In addition to regular adjustments, my chiropractor has also shown me several stretches that I can practice to remain limber for labor/delivery.   A simple hip flexor stretch as well as the tried and tailor stretch are two of my favorites.

When seeking out a chiropractor, be sure to look for one who has a specific interest in and experience with helping expectant women.  They are more likely to be informed on the latest practices and information regarding adjustments during pregnancy. Read more about the benefits of chiropractic during pregnancy here and here.

3.  Meditation and Visualization
Alright, I know this might sound a little bit hoakie, but visualization and meditation during labor and delivery really can help the process along. Don't worry, I'm not going all new age on you! Believing in the power of the mind to help us through difficult, even painful situations can be a positive and prayerful experience.

While I was laboring with our 4th son, Henry, my doula suggested that when a set of contractions would come, that I close my eyes, exhale, and with each one visualize the baby descending down the birth canal.

To my surprise, the deep, controlled breathing and visualization helped me to relax, allowing the contractions work more effectively. I used the same technique while laboring with our 5th child, and was amazed at how I was able to truly manage the discomfort.  I actually looked forward to each contraction, knowing that with each one, the energy in my muscles was moving me closer to being able to push.

Now that I'm just 3 weeks away from my due date, in the evenings, I like to find a quiet place, sit in the tailor position, close my eyes and practice visualizing the birth process.  This type of meditation truly is prayerful preparation for what I hope to be a positive experience both for myself and for the baby.

Do you have any advice when it comes to giving birth naturally?? 
Please feel free to share your thoughts in the comments!


Thursday, May 8, 2014

Let's Talk Motherhood LInk-Up!

Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 
Let's Talk Motherhood Link-up!

This is the place for you to share your favorite posts, past or present that are expressive of your life experiences as a mama, your wisdom, humor, joys, sorrows, questions and answers on all topics related to motherhood! This includes anything you've written about our beautiful mother, Mary, as well!! 

Every week I am inspired, encouraged and uplifted by so many of you who speak from a mother's heart when writing your posts.  What a gift your words are to me and to countless others! 

In honor of Mother's Day, which I hope you'll be celebrating in fine fashion this Sunday, I am excited to host this link-up just for you, and cannot wait to find a comfy spot to put my feet up, relax and read all of your fabulous posts! The link-up will remain open until midnight on Sunday.

P.S. If you haven't heard about our Full of Grace Divine Designs jewelry giveaway, it's not too late to sign up for a chance to win!! All the details right here!! 

THANK YOU FOR CONTRIBUTING TO THE LINK-UP!!





Wednesday, May 7, 2014

Cankles, Popsicles and a Baby Pool - Enough to Inspire a 5 Favorites Swimwear Edition


Two weeks ago, my OBGYN and I were discussing the crazy Kansas weather, because you know, that's what you talk about when you're trying to get to know a near-retirement physician who's delivered some 6,500 babies and you're trying to establish some sort of relationship before it's time to push.

Anyway, that morning it was a lovely 45 degrees of cool outside, and our chit-chat was not on the positive side.  Nothing like a good gripe while the tape measure is being stretched over the ol' abs.  We both wanted spring to be here. Doc wanted to golf, I wanted to plant my flowers, and we both wanted the eternal winter to be over.

Well, guess what.  It's over.  And, tomorrow, I'm going back for another weather chat, I mean preg check, and I am going to try my level best not to complain about mother nature breathing her scorching breath all over us in the form of 100 degree temps. Those digits are just a tad high for May, and really wouldn't even bother me too terrible much if it wasn't for the fact that our a/c keeled over last week.

88 degrees in la casa.  Oooo, Lawd.  

I really can roll with the heat, and have always been a lover of summer, but when I'm pregnant it tends to accelerate the swelling of my limbs, which is truly lovely....

How about an Instagram of my feet?? Better yet, I'll just tell you what I see: they look like moon boots, extra puffy, with squishy toes swollen together, yet glamorously disguised by a chipped and faded coral pedi, and all that business is attached to a sweet set of cankles to match. Just to make you extra jealous, I've been wearing my husband's flip flops, the only shoes that fit. They should look super jazzy with my Sunday Mass attire. Be sure to tune in for that mess in my What I Wore Sunday post *wink.*

Thankfully, there are remedies for this situation. Camping out at the library with my gang or lingering in the ice cream isle at the grocery store, or, better yet, laying in the baby pool under a shade tree with a plentiful stash of popsicles seem to be the top options for escaping the suburban sauna until the air conditioner hero sweeps in on Saturday to save me from the fires of hell.

All this pool talk has got me thinking swimwear.  Not that I'll be jumping into anything remotely fitted for the next few months, but for now thinking about what I would wear if I weren't making a baby and retaining 22 pounds of fluid at the same time is a nice distraction!

Here are my Five Favorite places to find modest yet 
fun and feminine swimwear:

- 1. - 
Rey Swimwear

My sweet friend, Andrienne, introduced me to Rey swimwear, and I have to say that I absolutely love their designs and cannot wait to order one of their suits....um, perhaps next summer! Of course these girls are looking fab with gorgeous make up and hair in addition to their sweet vintage suits, and while that's neverrrrrr going to be me poolside, I can't help but love the romantic ideal they're trying to achieve with every look.

Choices, choices, choices!! That is exactly what you'll find here! Mix and match patterns, colors and embellishments until you find the perfect suit.  This is my favorite website of the 5, there's something fun and flattering for every lady right here!

- 3. -
Lime Ricki
Last summer I wrote a little ditty from my modest swimwear soapbox perspective, and the biggest responses I received were from moms who "can't seem to find" modest swim wear for their daughters or who find it impossible to get their offspring to agree to wear a modest suit because they're all ugly. Lime Ricki is the answer!! This company was built by moms who wanted to give their daughters fun, fashionable swimwear that offered a bit more coverage than say a bra and panties, or as some might call it, a bikini.

- 4. -
Popina
The vintage suits on this site definitely give Rey a run for their money! And, I really like that they also offer cover-ups and other accessories. Yes, they do sell bikinis, but we'll leave that department fully stocked for, for, for....well, for those who are completely comfortable sporting a bra and undies in public.

- 5. - 
Lands End
Lands End is like old trusty in the bathing suit department. With descriptives like miracle, minimize, and maximize on their site, you really can't go wrong.  They offer so many choices, from fit, style and mix and match colors and patterns, there's something for every mama here.  I'll admit, L.E. is a bit pricey, but thankfully, you can usually find a pretty decent coupon on RetailMeNot.com or shop their overstock department, too.  The bright side of the expense is that L.E. suits are durable, they hold their shape and color so you can enjoy them for more than one season.

Is 9 a.m. too early for a popsicle?? I didn't think so!  Cherry or lime...that's the question for the day. Stay cool, my friends!!


Monday, May 5, 2014

Full of Grace Divine Designs Giveaway ~ Just In Time For Mother's Day!


Happy Monday, everyone! I am so excited that you are here!!
Mother's day is less than a week away, and as I was shopping for my own mom this past weekend, searching for that perfect gift that spoke of my heart's affection for her, I couldn't help but think of all of the wonderful moms that I have met in my lifetime.  To all of you who have shared your stories with me, your ups and downs, your humor and your encouragement, your wise advice and sincere support - your humble spirits and honest perspective have truly inspired me, and I am so very grateful for YOU!!
In honor of the gift of motherhood, I am blessed to have the opportunity to giveaway a beautiful custom designed bracelet or necklace from Full of Grace Divine Designs jewelry to one of my special readers!
Melissa and her beautiful daughters!

Two years ago, I was delighted to discover Melissa's website and instantly fell in love with her amazing story, her inspiring creativity and her truly beautiful jewelry!


Saints and angels have inspired classic works of western art from the birth of Christianity. The divine grace represented in their stories of faith and suffering console and comfort believers. My designs are offered as an extension of this art and beauty with the hope to empower others to share their faith and its beauty.

Not only is Melissa gifting one of my lucky readers with either the Delilah bracelet or Addy necklace (you get to choose!), she is also very generously offering a 15% discount to any of my readers who wish to make a purchase on her website this week! In addition to an array of exquisite necklaces and bracelets, Full of Grace Divine Designs also offers earrings, rosaries, and other special gifts. Please use this code at checkout to receive the discount:  SSM15off

Remember, you can come back each day of the giveaway 
and increase your number of entries!
{The winner will be contacted at the closing of the giveaway on Monday, May 12th, 2014.}

Thank you for supporting Full of Grace Divine Designs!

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Friday, May 2, 2014

70 Pounds of Crawfish on My Porch and Other Amusements {7QT Friday}


- 1. -
Expressions
George, our child of a thousand expressions.  One of these days I'm going to dedicate an entire post filled with pictures of this guy's facial contortions. He really is quite gifted.  Given the fact that his every thought and feeling is clearly defined for all to see from the neck up, I can't imagine him ever raking in the cash at a poker table, but Broadway seems like a strong possibility.  

On Sunday, George begged us to let him keep one of the crawfish that we bought for the boil as a pet.  We had our own squeemish expressions over his request, and after rejoicing over our reluctant consent, George promptly named his new friend Rocky.  Because, he said, "Rocky is tough like a crawfish, and every year I can keep one crawfish from the bunch and name it Rocky. Rocky 2, Rocky 3, Rocky 4, Rocky 5 - just like the movies (none of which he has seen, but whatever, we're rollin' with it).


- 2. -
Crawfish
If you were here last week, you may remember me mentioning something about a Feast of the Divine Mercy party cancellation due to a big fire that erupted at a dairy where my husband and his father were attending to some business.  Without going into detail, I'll just say this: It was bad, very bad. Steve called with the news on Wednesday saying he most likely wouldn't be home until Saturday or Sunday due to his need to manage damages at the dairy.  I was so very thankful that no one was hurt, and maybe just a little bit sad that we would have to cancel the Divine Mercy/John Paul II crawfish boil party that we'd scheduled for Saturday night.
Sometime on Friday, my honey called to inform me that he had forgotten to cancel the order for the crawfish, and that UPS would be delivering them first thing on Saturday morning. 

70 POUNDS people, 70 POUNDS!! Imagine that in beef, what is that, like half a cow??? 

I really don't want to roll this post into a pregnancy pity party, but I'm going to for just a second. First things first, I am sa-woooolllleeeennn (swollen).  Feet hands and everything in between always retain more water than the Gulf of Mexico the last month of every pregnancy.  So, between trying to care for 5 boys by myself, homeschool, and ignore the contractions I'm having while scraping unmentionables out from beneath the appliances (nesting is a bit out of control) I now 
had a boatful of crustaceans sitting on my porch.

You would think that the buckets of tears I cried last week over missing my husband, having to cancel the party and the ballooning state of my flesh would have alleviated some of the swelling, but no, comfort is not in the cards these days.

Steve staggered in late Saturday afternoon, exhausted and we just stared at each other, then the crawfish, then each other, then....well we fell asleep. 

What did we end up doing with the 70 pounds of seafood??...
Despite being utterly exhausted, we decided to just cook 'em up anyway, all 70 pounds, and then we enlisted our family and neighbors to come to help us eat 'em.  To our surprise, they were awfully tasty! So tasty that next year we will be hosting our first annual Divine Mercy crawfish boil party, barring any fires or other major catastrophes, that is.

- 3. -
Deliciousness
This is the cake that I had planned to serve at the Divine Mercy/John Paul II party.  I made two of them ahead of time, since they stay fresh in the fridge for a few days, and we ate both of them, oh, you know we did!  I remember my mom making this cake for bridal showers and other special occasions when I was younger, and I always thought it was so pretty with it's colorful stripes, cool creamy topping and sweet petite garnish.  If you would like to try the recipe, you can find it right here.
- 4. -
Track & Field
Yesterday was Ben's last track meet for the season. I can honestly say that I'm a little sad that the season is over.  Our family has had so much fun being together outdoors, watching all of the events, and socializing with the other wonderful families who's kids attend our small school. Ben's events were the high jump, 100m hurdles, 800 and 4x100 relay.  He had a fun, rewarding season and won a few medals too!
- 5. -
Weekly Funny
I can't help sharing this.  You know, sometimes people try to be funny about parenthood, and honestly, they're just not. funny. at. all.  But, this guy is. And, I love that he not only makes me and Steve laugh, somehow his humor also helps us to feel like we're not really drowning in an ocean of spit up and diapers all buy ourselves. Thanks, Jim.

- 6. -
One More Quote
Like many parents, Steve and I like to spend a good deal of of our time together talking about the funny things our kids say or the sweet or ridiculous things they do, because remembering helps us to get over the little behavior bumps in the road and relish the goodness of our boys.  

The week before Easter, Steve's mom asked the boys which apostle they would choose to be if they could be any one of them. When it came time for Andrew to answer, he matter-of-factly said, "I'd be Judas." (Uh, okay?) Of course Granny was curious to learn his reason why, and so Andrew simply explained, "Well, if I were Judas, I would change history because I would choose a different path than he did."

Right. Not John, John the beloved, whom Jesus says he loves. Nope, Judas, the betrayer, the shameful, the lost.

I would change history.  Wise words from an 11 year old boy has us pondering our daily decisions, the sincerity of our efforts toward living a life of virtue, the ways in which our choices affect others, how each of our life stories are written with decisions and actions that we can't take back, and how we will be remembered for those decisions.  

- 7. - 
Something Lovely
On Monday, I'll be giving teaming up with Melissa, the owner of Full of Grace Divine Designs jewelry, who will gift one of my lucky readers with a piece of her beautiful, handmade jewelry for a giveaway I'm hosting in honor of Mother's Day.  We hope to see you here next week where you can sign up for a chance to win!

Have a fantastic weekend, my friends!!