tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post3604992163901320165..comments2023-11-01T16:14:45.338-07:00Comments on Sole Searching Mama: My Interview With Thriving In the Trenches, and Why Modesty Means So
Much to MeSole Searching Mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11791024176229050045noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-65475640928671361442017-06-14T08:03:08.856-07:002017-06-14T08:03:08.856-07:00Amen, Colleen! Thank you for this beautiful post, ...Amen, Colleen! Thank you for this beautiful post, Susan!Maiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01128077855389688921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-8076378956782263212017-06-13T12:20:52.061-07:002017-06-13T12:20:52.061-07:00Hi Jascha! Modesty isn't simple! It's a ch...Hi Jascha! Modesty isn't simple! It's a challenge, but one worth pursuing! Ultimately, our inner self worth can only come from understanding that we are children of a loving Father. No one will every be able to fulfill the way that He can, and wants to!Sole Searching Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11791024176229050045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-83755311976819692092017-06-13T12:19:04.396-07:002017-06-13T12:19:04.396-07:00I agree with Lindsay, rape has never been about mo...I agree with Lindsay, rape has never been about modesty. It simply isn't reasonable to lump all men together into a category of potential rapists. Charles Manson said he became a serial rapist and eventually a serial killer because of pornography. That tells us, loud and clear, that modesty matters! Rapists aren't looking for scantily clad women, they've already seen their fill and more through porn. At that point, it doesn't matter what a woman is wearing, they have already decided to harm her. By nature, men are visual creatures. It is my hope and prayer that all men strive for purity, for self-control over their actions and attractions toward women. That being said, how we dress can help them, and when we help them, we help us.Sole Searching Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11791024176229050045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-84192940104156932612017-06-13T08:55:10.902-07:002017-06-13T08:55:10.902-07:00Nodded along to this whole post. I don't thin...Nodded along to this whole post. I don't think women can truly understand the trials boys/men have to face in this area until they have sons. I know I never did!Colleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11451797365712728579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-55992651212347180442017-06-13T08:00:43.741-07:002017-06-13T08:00:43.741-07:00Rape has never been about modesty. Rape has never been about modesty. Lindseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06893566321584649615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-41078952472024439922017-06-13T07:24:10.335-07:002017-06-13T07:24:10.335-07:00How come so many women in full burkas get raped? O...How come so many women in full burkas get raped? Or nuns? Old ladies? Little girls? They weren't dressed immodestly or tempting men so what happened there?conoco77https://www.blogger.com/profile/04888937324766684552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-41357225434763229082017-06-12T21:08:27.364-07:002017-06-12T21:08:27.364-07:00Hi Liz! Thank you for your thoughtful questions! I...Hi Liz! Thank you for your thoughtful questions! It is late for me here, so I will address your comments tomorrow, but I want to state that, while I am sure that Emily Kelly intends only the best for you in sharing the book, Dressing With Dignity, with you, I do not advocate reading the book. Feel free to consider her suggestion, but please know that it is her opinion and is not to be mistaken for my opinion on this blog. Thank you!Sole Searching Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11791024176229050045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-27640226832317391032017-06-12T17:17:00.164-07:002017-06-12T17:17:00.164-07:00Dressing With Dignity by Colleen Hammond addresses...Dressing With Dignity by Colleen Hammond addresses practical guidlines for dressing, how the Catholic Church views modesty, and how to talk with others about the topic. She was a former model and image consultant. So far it's the most in-depth compilation I've found. Hope that helps!Emily Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12562918167101759599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-17845555074929549192017-06-12T13:52:28.378-07:002017-06-12T13:52:28.378-07:00Thank you! This is excellent! Full of great talkin...Thank you! This is excellent! Full of great talking points to have with the young men and women we are raising.<br />Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00247308838471839777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-87360146766009823212017-06-12T13:46:52.972-07:002017-06-12T13:46:52.972-07:00Very well spoken. So true... You make it almost so...Very well spoken. So true... You make it almost sound simple ;-)But I find it hard to translate this message into the secular environment. This inner sense of worth is so important, and it will relate to a lot of people. Really, it's key.Jascha Donathhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13646812844390293803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-38586910178539086792017-06-12T13:10:17.737-07:002017-06-12T13:10:17.737-07:00Andrea, I miss you! What I wouldn't give for a...Andrea, I miss you! What I wouldn't give for and evening on the porch with something to sip and unlimited hours of conversation with you! Thank you so much for sharing your perspective with me. I know that my blogs will never be perfect, and will always fail in some capacity to communicate what I feel in my heart toward this topic, but I am encouraged and inspired by you and your amazing family. Thank you!Sole Searching Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11791024176229050045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-84845379749942721532017-06-12T13:01:30.244-07:002017-06-12T13:01:30.244-07:00I appreciate you writing this post! I am a mom of ...I appreciate you writing this post! I am a mom of two preschool aged boys so this is my future. I have a question for you and would love your thoughts. What exactly is modest dress? (I don't have time to listen to the podcast right now if that is something you address in it so I apologize if it is...) The reason I ask is because I left a faith tradition that requires women to cover their shoulders and wear knee length clothing. Only in the last year have I felt comfortable baring my shoulders. I wear mid-thigh length shorts now too. I know you don't have daughters but how do you personally as a faithful, virtuous woman who isn't seeking attention do this? I guess I am really asking for myself.<br /><br />Thank you in advance :)<br /><br />Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04130143716737721611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-40718789100593922782017-06-12T12:45:43.851-07:002017-06-12T12:45:43.851-07:00Thank you! I am always searching for the right wor...Thank you! I am always searching for the right words to speak to the women who come to me in anger and frustration because they see my POV as critical and judgemental. When they express to me that boys are the problem, not girls, and that their girls should be allowed to dress how ever they choose, I feel an even greater desire to find the words that will reach them. Thank you for sharing your story with me. It encourages me to keep loving others in truth and hope!Sole Searching Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11791024176229050045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-72420267440313120532017-06-12T12:42:36.933-07:002017-06-12T12:42:36.933-07:00Awe, Mary, I think we could have some great conver...Awe, Mary, I think we could have some great conversations about our kiddos! You are an amazing mother, and I am encouraged by your great faithfulness to your vocation!Sole Searching Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11791024176229050045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-10078669912235505412017-06-12T12:41:29.105-07:002017-06-12T12:41:29.105-07:00Coming from you, my blogging hero, that means a lo...Coming from you, my blogging hero, that means a lot!Sole Searching Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11791024176229050045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-9277453125984049002017-06-12T12:41:08.537-07:002017-06-12T12:41:08.537-07:00Thank you, Maggie!Thank you, Maggie!Sole Searching Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11791024176229050045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-90733304441325557592017-06-12T10:57:34.942-07:002017-06-12T10:57:34.942-07:00Susan I think you really hit the crux of the matte...Susan I think you really hit the crux of the matter for young women toward the end here. An interior posture of modesty is FIRST and MOST important. It is a matter of knowing from where her dignity comes - and who gives it to her. I know I have commented on your blog in the past about my experiences learning about modesty in dress (it was a process...I was not a modestly dressed teenage girl). As the mother of 5 girls and we begin to wade into the world of teenage years, I just want to say - I hear you. While I attempt to teach my girls to be pure in spirit, to dress in a manner that is feminine and becoming, and to run after virtue like it's her job, I am also lamenting a world that seems to be filled up with boys with p*ornography in their pockets and affecting their brains. <br />That said, I am so hopeful! Knowing that I, and other mothers are trying to raise up Godly women, and that you and other mothers are truly bringing actual men into this word gives me hope! <br />Great post, my friend!Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10135272827538989265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-90790253153193188942017-06-12T10:02:50.254-07:002017-06-12T10:02:50.254-07:00I was an adult pregnant with my 4th child before I...I was an adult pregnant with my 4th child before I heard the explanation of why women and girls need to dress modestly that included the hardwiring of men to be visually stimulated. That made an impact on me and how I raised my 2 daughters and 2 sons. This article states the case for modesty very well.wpalcher7https://www.blogger.com/profile/09719697850313854851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-14491271802966048932017-06-12T10:01:03.436-07:002017-06-12T10:01:03.436-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.wpalcher7https://www.blogger.com/profile/09719697850313854851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-55752813132517895792017-06-12T09:57:28.753-07:002017-06-12T09:57:28.753-07:00As a mother of five boys, my eyes are filling with...As a mother of five boys, my eyes are filling with tears. Such truth and wisdom. Thank you for writing this!Mary @ Better Than Edenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05409924891343767874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-66525735837895421022017-06-12T07:25:38.643-07:002017-06-12T07:25:38.643-07:00This is wonderful.This is wonderful.JennyUhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12298328121715138628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039084287472642442.post-4699064201932083742017-06-12T04:47:09.664-07:002017-06-12T04:47:09.664-07:00Excellent post.Excellent post.Maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01654777916017350388noreply@blogger.com